CAREGIVING, CANCER, MARRIAGE

DOES FAITH MATTER WHEN CARING FOR A SPOUSE WITH CANCER? QUESTION FROM THE HEART OF A SPOUSE.

  • YOUR HUSBAND HAS ADVANCED ESOPHAGEAL CANCER.
  • SCREAM was MY FIRST THOUGHT, BUT i GULPED, SWALLOWED IT, AND LET THE TEARS FLOW.
  • WE HAD ENTERED THE CANCER SUPER HIGHWAY WITH NO EXIT IN SIGHT UNTIL WE PASSED CANCER STAGING, CHEMOTHERAPY PROTOCOLS, SIX WEEKS OF DAILY RADIATION, AND SURGERY.
  • ┬áCANCER, THE THIRD CHARACTER IN OUR MARRIAGE, CAME WITH ITS OWN SET OF RULES. SURVIVING THE RULES OF THE BATTLE REQUIRED going BEYOND OURSELVES, PHYSICALLY AND EMOTIONALLY. how?
  • MY HUSBAND’S COURAGE WAS UNDENIABLE, BUT TO FACE EACH work DAY, HE NEEDED ENERGY WITHOUT the PERIPHERAL TASKS of my role.
  • The supporting spouse can NOT IGNORE the ROLLER COASTER RIDE OF EMOTIONS, I WAS A WIFE, LOVER, MOTHER, COOK, AND HOUSEHOLD MANAGER, AND BY AGREEMENT, ADDED MANAGER OF APPOINTMENTS, INSURANCE, FIELDING CALLS, ANSWERING QUESTIONS, LEARNING NEW NUTRITIONAL MENUS, AND SPENDING HOURS SITTING IN THE HOSPITAL WAITING ROOM, THE NEARBY SUPPORT WHILE HE UNDERWENT TREATMENTs AND PROCEDURES. how?
  • THIS LIST SEEMS CUT AND DRY. IT IS AN OVERVIEW, SOMEWHAT LIKE THE HOSPITAL PAMPHLET, one might receive THAT MAKES YOUR SURGICAL PROCEDURE SOUND LIKE A BREEZE.
  • FAITH AND TRUST IN GOD MATTERED. TO SOME, IT MIGHT SEEM ODD SINCE GOD ALLOWED CANCER TO CRASH INTO OUR LIFE. YET, God NEVER PROMISED US A LIFE WITHOUT TRIALS.
  • i COULD NOT CHANGE OUR CIRCUMSTANCE, NOR CURE HIS CANCER, BUT I COULD CHOOSE HOW I WALKED WITH HIM AND HONOR HIS ONE REQUEST for brevity. iT DOESN’T MEAN I DIDN’T CRUMBLE AT TIMES, AND WHEN I DID, I CRUMBLED AT gOD’S FEET. he always was my caregiver, my friend, perfect father. PROMISE TO BE MY REFUGE AND STRENGTH NEVER FAILED when i dumped every roller coaste emotion in his lap.
  • HE SAID, I WILL INSTRUCT YOU WHERE TO TURN, AND I WILL BE WITH YOU THROUGH IT ALLWHEN CANCER TESTED MY COURAGE AND FAITH.
  • HE IS THE HELPER WHO WILL SHOW UP TO BE YOUR REFUGE AND STRENGTH AS YOU CARE FOR A SPOUSE THROUGH IT ALL. JUST ASK HIM.

CAREGIVING, CANCER, MARRIAGE